Confront your shadows

What are "shadows" actually - the definition according to C. G. Jung

According to C. G. Jung (* 26. Juli 1875 in Kesswil, Switzerland; † 6. Juni 1961 in Küsnacht, Switzerland), our shadows are those parts, sides and characteristics of ourselves that we are not aware of and that contradict the ego ideal, the collective unconscious dispositions that are not compatible with the conscious way of life and therefore cannot be integrated into the ego.

The very qualities that we are firmly convinced do not belong to us are often hidden in our subconscious (the shadow respective the blind spot) because we repress them there after not wanting to see them. If we learn to recognize and accept them instead of repressing them, we can experience ourselves as one, thus realizing our full potential and finding our true purpose and lightness.

The origin of your shadows

Your shadows mostly arise from

• Characteristics that you yourself feel are wrong or inappropriate
• Behaviors that you have been told are not right. Especially in childhood, but also at work and in relationships.
• Unresolved conflicts from all phases of life
• Unfulfilled longings from all phases of life
• Unmet needs from all phases of life

Such repressed shadow parts can be

• Negative qualities such as jealousy, selfishness, anger, hatred, greed or envy
• Positive qualities such as strength, curiosity, enthusiasm, eagerness or appreciation, but which you feel are not right or inappropriate for you for one of the above reasons

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How your shadows work in your life

Your shadows are not locked away in inactivity, but can be triggered by external impulses - they are practically waiting to be used. They then wake up spontaneously, you have no influence over them, and they lead you to unconscious actions, feelings and behaviors without you knowing why. You begin to project these unloved aspects onto the outside world and reject the people and situations on the outside that remind you of your own shadow parts.

The more you repress your shadow parts, the more strongly they affect your life, up to and including psychoses and other health effects.

The most common areas in which your shadows have an effect are your partnership and career.

Shadows in the partnership

You cannot live a good and fulfilling partnership if it is not the right one. You live the right partnership with people who harmonize with your soul. You can only find happiness and fulfillment in the long term with the right soul-minded partners who resonate with you.

Shadows in the career

You cannot do any job well and fulfillingly if it is not the right one - i.e. the job that corresponds to your true nature - your vocation. In the long term, you can only find prosperity and security in your right soul-determined field of work, with the right tasks and the right use of your talents and gifts.

How to look your shadows in the eye and transform them

The dilemma

Are you ready to let go of who you think you are in order to find out who you really are? Many of us create an ideal self based on external expectations. This ideal self seems to be the solution to all our problems, but in reality it is a mask. It forces us to live in the future, always chasing something that seems unattainable. And while chasing these ideals, they miss out on the present moment - the only place where they can truly change.

The solution

Recognize the repressed parts of you and integrate them into your life in a positive way. True transformation doesn't happen when you achieve something, but when you begin to accept who you are now, including your imperfections, your flaws and your shadows.

To reveal your true identity you need vulnerability and courage. Vulnerability is the act of exposing yourself to what you fear in yourself. Courage holds you on the right track in this process.

In short: the best way is to carry out the following steps:

• Find a quiet place, make yourself comfortable and close your eyes. Start by taking a few deep breaths, relax your body and calm down
• First get in touch with your shadow (via recognized triggers that you encounter and of which you become aware)
• Now think about what questions you have for your shadow (why am I being triggered - the mirror exercise often helps here)
• Feel its answers (accept them and don't judge)
• Find the underlying emotions and transform them (I can help you with this very efficiently)

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